Our good friend Joanne came to see us yesterday. Nothing much unusual about that in itself, but what made me smile was the fact that both my wife & I were naked, Joanne stayed dressed because quite simply she is not a naturist. She does however wear some very 'provocative' clothing. Very tight short skirts,low cut & boob hugging tops, very high heeled shoes & quite a bit of make-up. She is a very attractive young woman, (she's around 40!)who really dresses to 'tease' & have a 'laugh' with people generally who mock & comment about her. She quite candidly admits that men ogle her and make lewd remarks about her. She comes to us on odd occasions just to 'chatter' and talk over so many topics and relate news about her family and her new grandson. The fact that we were (& quite usually are) naked makes no difference to Joanne, her talking and laughter rarely changes. What particularly was different on this visit is she commented on the fact that people come and visit us with little or no comment about our nakedness, but people who see her are always making comments about sex and sexual activity.
At the end of quite a lengthy chat she came to some agreement with us that "naked isn't actually sexy!" but dressing in a provocative manner which highlights but yet hides the sexual tones of her body, is potentially quite dangerous to her. We told her of the dozens (if not more!) people that see one or both of us naked every day, people just going about their usual daily routine, people who just happen to have a reason to call and see us, people whose only comment about our (or my) state of undress is when the warmth of our home is in direct contrast to the outside world. A local woman who brings a magazine for my wife came in and had a 10 minute 'rest' with us made a comment about needing to put warmer clothes on and a thicker jumper to keep warm on her outdoor journey's. Her main comment (which was in general flow of conversation) was something like, "it must be odd being so naked all day for you when the weather isn't that good, but I suppose it's natural & what you do!"
So here we have two very different yet related comments and attitudes towards nudity, it's comfort & it's non-sexual presence when sex is not the objective. I think that in our own little but effective way, we are slowly changing the 'accepted' attitudes towards naturists/naturism. We are by just being ourselves getting social nudity back into mainstream daily life. Many who come to our home don't actually notice weather we are dressed or naked! The only comment I ever get is when someone I know meets up with me in a very different location and they just don't (at first) recognise me clothed. They come out with that classic line, "I didn't recognise you with your clothes on!"
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I`m glad people treat you both as "normal" whatever that is haha,seriously,its nice that people are comfortable around you both,its good to hear,Regards,
Eric.
Agreed. That's why I phrased it "If we could" and also "show that really shows reality".
It would also be as boring as anyone's regular home life. People would discover that nudism is just about "Being Nude".
If we could put you and your home on television as a "reality" show that really shows reality I think it would make a difference.
The trouble with that though is, it would have to be "titillated up" to be "good television" and thereby defeat the object. A friend of mine appeared on "Come Dine with Me" and they couldn't have chosen a better idiot to show why I would never touch anything like that with a bargepole. Don't spoil the 'magic', Patrick!
No thank you Greg, we have seen too many so called "reality" shows. It would all be edited according to the producers perception of what he wanted his viewers to see & understand. We're just not going to be 'media puppies' at any time.
Lovely to hear that you are spreading the word, Patrick, especially about how wearing clothes is sexual behaviour and being naked isn't.
I continuously wonder at how you manage to "get away" with it. But thinking about it, you must exude such an aura of honesty and normality (I almost said virtue, but decided not to LOL) that people really do see nudism (and themselves in comparison) in a different and positive light.
Thank you Paul. I think to some degree or other we all enjoy just being 'ourselves'. The problems or difficulties arise when we 'clash' with what others see as 'normal' behaviour. People we know & see regularly know that we are 'normal' in our little circle of life, perhaps our kind of 'normal' isn't quite what people expect when they first meet us.
Very true Patrick. Better to be open and honest and normal about it than be furtive about it.